Valentine's Day thoughts

I remember exactly where I was when this truth hit home for me.

I was sitting on the train travelling to work in the morning, probably around Sunshine station, in my corporate Cue dress, heels and trench coat.

I was listening to a podcast about why men cheat. I had not long found out that my fiancée had been having a six month affair. We’d been together since I was 16 for 7 years so it was a good chunk of my life that felt wasted.

I wasn’t in a very healthy place. I was burying my head in the sand, not allowing myself to feel the pain and just had to keep moving and avoid being still. So I’m really not sure what made me listen to this podcast.

What I do remember so clearly was what the psychologist being interviewed said... “We can’t expect to get everything from our partner”.

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We need to have multiple people in our lives that fulfill us in different ways. There’s no way we can possibly expect one person to meet every need we have. That’s just setting ourselves up for failure and disappointment.

With this young relationship, I had certainly done this. I had expected him to be my everything. And I couldn’t take this into future relationships.

Fast forward to today, and I have the most incredible people around me. I truly believe that my best girlfriends are my soul mates. I have a therapist I see at least once a month. And a family that support me through so much. Each of them bring something different to my life and meet different needs.

But most importantly, I give what I need to myself. I am responsible for my own happiness and fulfilment.

So a boyfriend is just a bonus. And I can appreciate him for who he is, and what he adds to my life.

I hope this Valentine’s Day you can take a moment to be your own Valentine. Give yourself the love and romance you deserve.

Today is the last day of my Galentine’s sale to celebrate the beautiful women in our loves. Jump on now to buy one print and get one free. The sale ends at midnight tonight.